I'm afraid it's a bit of a trick heading because YOU DON'T need to know how to do this - you WILL do it and completely BOSS IT whatever happens. I just thought I'd write a few reflections on things. As a competitive and athletic person, I would've appreciated hearing about the run-up during my birth. Perhaps some of this might be useful. 

1. Know that you are enough

Birth and breastfeeding are complicated. It's OK if it doesn't go to plan. It's OK if it's more challenging, painful or frightening than you thought. Know that your baby, partner and support crew are completely and utterly devoted to you now and are non-judgemental about the birth and non-judgemental about the feeding method you choose. There is no perfect, and whatever you choose will be more than enough. 

In fact, I should stop here because this is the most important message of the whole email. 

2. Pack your own pillow and eye mask

Your golden ticket to some comfortable rest (note I don't say sleep, who knows what will happen with sleep). Hospital lights go on and off all night, so bring a light-blocking eye mask. 

3. Keep warm and comfy

For labour and beyond - have hoodies, warm socks, hot water bottles, blankets and anything soft and comforting close to hand. 

4. Order in 

Deliveroo/Uber Eats or whatever mobile food delivery service you have is likely to be able to deliver to hospitals. I strongly urge you to consider getting takeout if you have an overnight stay in the hospital. Why? Because it's a treat, you don't have to lift a finger, and hospital food is simply not the same. If you're home-birthing or already at home - do it too. Now's not the time to be counting macros or having food guilt. Order what you fancy, lots of it, and enjoy it. 

5. Expect a belly for some time

Try not to be too overwhelmed by the postpartum pooch. Please don't panic; it's incredibly normal and can last quite some time for some women. Ignore social media, and don't search for skinny postpartum photos week-by-week. It's not helpful and detracts you from the real purpose of this fourth trimester: bed in and stay comfy. 

What is your birth must-have advice? I'd love to hear what worked for you or your plans for the big arrival.