Let’s be honest, half the time we say sorry we aren’t even sure what we are apologizing for. It’s most likely to be polite, because that’s what we have been taught since we were little girls. While there is a good intention in teaching girls to be polite, being too polite can cause us to apologize for things we have no business apologizing for.

Here are ten things you need to stop apologizing for. Like, right now.

1. For not having romantic feelings for someone. When someone is pursuing you to date you, if you aren’t interested then you owe zero apologies. This is unfortunately something women are made to feel bad about by, most of the time by the man pursuing them. If you aren’t interested, then you aren’t interested. You can be nice about it, but this doesn’t mean you have to feel bad.

2. For wanting to be alone. Sometimes we just need a minute to ourselves. Never apologize for needing to take some time by yourself if you need it.

3. For how you run your household. If someone shows up to your house, how often do you find yourself saying, “I’m sorry it’s a mess in here”? They decided to show up to your house. If you want to leave dirty dishes in the sink until the end of the week, that’s not anyone else’s problem but yours.

4. For how you raise your kids. Just because how you raise your children looks different than how you were raised, never apologize for how you want to raise your children and what parenting strategies work for you and your family.

5. For how you spend your time. If you want to spend an entire Saturday on your couch watching the Bachelor while you sip a glass of wine, that’s your choice. No judgement and no apologies necessary.

6. For standing up for yourself. If you feel disrespected and need to put someone in their place, don’t apologize. You felt that way for a reason, don’t double back on your feelings because you feel impolite.

7. For working (too much, or not at all). If you are a workaholic with big career goals who would rather catch up on work for next week instead of go to happy hour that night, you do you. Vice versa, if you are a mom who decides to stay at home with her kids instead of going back to work (let’s be honest, that’s more than a full time job), don’t apologize to anyone about your job situation.

8. For having a differing opinion. If someone has a differing opinion then you, it’s not your job to make them feel comfortable if they can’t handle someone disagreeing with them. That’s not on you, boo.

9. For being busy. If you don’t have time to do some of the things you used to do because you are busy chasing your goals and bettering yourself, there is no apology necessary. The real ones will understand.

10. For no longer being the person you used to be. If you aren’t interested in doing things you used to do, or acting like you used to act, whether it’s a shock to people or not, you are within your right to do whatever you want. And how many apologies do you owe anyone? Oh right, ZERO.